An English version of Pokémon Green does not exist so that game is a bootleg, bought by the artist for the purpose of completing this work of art.
When I was in high school, I had these two friends. These girls were well intentioned, but pretty obnoxious. They self identified as LGBT allies and supported campaigns like NOH8. Every year, they did the Day of SIlence. When I was younger and my analytic skills were a bit more lacking, I participated in it (eighth and ninth grade), but each year I did it, I felt kind of greasy about it. I was part of the bisexual community (there was no “coming out” for me, it just always was), and while I saw that it was nice that people were trying, it made me feel really bad, and I felt bad that I felt bad. After all, these were my allies. They were here to help me. Well, so I thought.
A Brief History on the Fucked Up-ness of GLSEN and NOH8
Now, GLSEN isn’t that bad. The only thing against them is the fact that they’re honoring the company that made Ender’s Game, a fucked up story if there ever was one.
HOWEVER, No H8 has made it a point to villify people that don’t fit in to their narrow view of acceptable behavior. Related, the FCKH8 campaign needs to stop.
This is a tl;dr section. Research the groups and decide for yourselves.
Finally, Why I Hate the Day of Silence
So those friends that I had, they weren’t LGBT. When I decided in tenth grade that I wasn’t fucking with that anymore, they tried to pressure me into doing it. They told me that I should be raising awareness for something that was so important to me. They were right - I should be raising awareness, not shutting my damn mouth.
The thing is, the Day of Silence isn’t for LGBT people. The Day of Silence is for allies that want to earn their good person points. It’s a time when they can shove a self righteous placard with some trite description of why they’re doing it in everyone’s face so that other people can marvel at how much of a bleeding heart they are.
All descriptions of why they do it have to do with “emulating the silence of people who stay silent every day” or something similar. There is no solidarity in this action. No - not unless they stayed silent for 18 years, in many cases longer than that. Not if they didn’t stay silent at work, school, church, the gym, wherever, for just as long of an amount of time. No, if they wanted to know what silence felt like, they would have to choose to become mute.
This is just like someone pushing themselves around in a wheelchair all day to “know what disabled people feel like”. It’s similar to people putting on religious clothing (more disrespectful, but in the same vein). Except, unlike the first one, which, with mass participation, actually has the potential to raise awareness for disability rights and issues like accessibility, public acceptance and perception, and other things like that (not the biggest things, but still important things), the Day of Silence literally doesn’t do anything. There’s nothing visible about it, and it requires minimal effort. Getting in trouble at school doesn’t qualify as a “hard time”, and I’ve seen posts “shouting out to allies that get yelled at by teachers”.
Give me a fucking break, kiddos.
Not only that, but simply not talking doesn’t give you an impression of what it’s like to have to hide your sexuality. I haven’t had to go through that, fortunately, because, frankly, I’d rather risk getting beat up than lie to myself and to others about me. I’ve also been fortunate enough to have pretty decent environments around me - there was still the occasional dickhead that called me a faggot or what have you, but it wasn’t super bad.
It also squeaks me out because the silence reminds me of the erasure that the monosexual communities put bisexual people through. Our voices about our sexualities are held silent regardless of how loudly we yell.
Lastly, if you claim that it’s meant to make you really think about these issues, let me ask you this - are you really an ally if you need a day to do it?
they made this my desktop today
i’m not happy with the fact that i have to be up right now
i literally could have gone to bed over an hour ago if RJ had actually done his damn job.
i literally slept three hours last night and i think i’m only going to get one or two at most tonight
i cannot WAIT to tear him apart when he runs for VP again.
i’ve never had the displeasure of working under anyone so fucking disorganized.